“并要以恩慈相待，存怜悯的心， 彼此饶恕，正如神在基督里饶恕了你们一样。” （弗 4：32）
4：31 “一切苦毒、恼恨、忿怒、嚷闹、毁谤，并一切的恶毒，都当从你们中间除掉。” 如果我心里充满苦毒和忿怒，我能恩慈相待吗？我能有怜悯的心吗？难怪我不能饶恕，因为我总是在默想他对我的伤害…
– “恩慈” 到底是什么意思？
– “怜悯的心” 到底是什么意思？
– 为什么说 “彼此” “相待”？ 意味着什么？
– “饶恕” 是什么意思？
– “正如” 意味着什么？
我知道我应该饶恕某人，但是我对它没有怜悯的心。 我对它表面很客气很温柔好像也很和颜悦色，但是我知道我内心深处真的没有怜悯的心。我对它有很多要求和期待。4：31 让我知道我心里还是记着它的不好，因此苦毒和愤怒扎根了。我要处理我的心。
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
May you allow me to give you an example of my personal meditation on this scripture?
– What is the context of this scripture?
Ephesians 4:31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice… Can I be kind and compassionate and forgiving if I continue to hold onto all bitterness and anger and hurt in my heart? No, absolutely not! I need to deal with those in my heart first before I might change my attitude toward the person…
– What does “kind” mean?
– What does “compassionate” mean?
– What does “one another” imply ?
meaning it’s just I need to offer kindness or compassion or forgiveness to others, I myself need compassion and forgiveness too. I am not perfect either. I need others to forgive me too…
– What does “forgive” really mean and imply?
– What does “just as” mean?
– What costs God to forgive me?
He sacrificed His son. Jesus died.
– What will cost me to have compassion for someone else?
I might be hurt or misunderstood.
– What will cost me to forgive someone else?
– What does this scripture speak to me?
I know I cannot forgive someone. I don’t have the desire to seek understanding but always want to be understood. Therefore I don’t have compassion for him. I am kind to him, but have no compassion. 4:31 helps me to see, I allow bitterness and anger to root in my heart. Every time when I think of him or talk about him, I will spill out that anger and bitterness.
– How do I pray?
Lord, the hurt is eating my heart and taking away my joy and peace. Forgive me that I don’t forgive. Lord, take away the bitterness and anger toward the person in my heart. Uproot all those negative feelings about him. Cleanse my heart and set me free!
And honestly, I haven’t finished my homework. I still don’t have compassion for it and still hold anger and bitterness toward it. But I am working on that. So I have Ephesians 4:32 written down on a paper and reciting it every morning and pray with it. I have been doing it for two weeks and I am trusting the Lord to set me free from the sin of an unforgiving heart. Celine’s sharing on Sunday helped me to know that I need to ask God for desire to seek understanding.